Defusing Power Struggles with Your Child
Tuesday, July 8th, 2008PAUSE
It is usually difficult to think clearly in the middle of an argument. Tell your child that you are taking a short break. Move away, take a deep breath, and/or do something else for a few moments. Resume the discussion when you feel a little bit more calm and creative.
CONNECT
If your child is acting out physically, introduce an alternative means of physical expression, such as drumming, stomping, running or pushing against resistance.
If your child is crying or screaming, repeat what she says in a tone of voice that matches her intensity. Then ask “Is there anything else you want me to know?”
RESOLVE
Children need help learning to compromise. After the emotion has settled, see if you can determine your child’s concerns and briefly share your own. Work together as a team to find a mutually agreeable solution.
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Want to learn more about taking the struggle out of parenting?
Inspiring Connections offers evening workshops on topics like power struggles, potty training and sibling rivalry. Private parenting consultations are also available.
www.inspiring-connections.com
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Who is Inspiring Connections?
Robin Goldstein-Lincoln, MA, LPC and Karen Alonge are both mothers and have over 30 years combined experience working with parents. Robin works as a licensed psychotherapist and parenting consultant in Boulder. Karen is a parenting consultant in private practice locally and online.